I’m talking about true friendships. Authentic relationships. Not the harmful co-dependent relationships of our addiction-led life. Not the hurtful relationships we sought out due to low self-esteem and depression. Let go of those so-called friendships and open up to the value of a true friend.
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33
If you’re any kind of addict or victim like me, then you found yourself surrounded by the wrong people. A friend doesn’t encourage you to feed your addiction. A friend doesn’t take advantage of your illness or low self-esteem. This applies to your romantic partners as well.
Embrace your life of recovery and seek out authentic relationships. It will take some serious effort on your part and probably require you to step outside of your comfort zone. Go to 12-step meetings, church, join groups at church…get out there and surround yourself with people who are doing the next right thing, and be their friend. Engage. Open up and learn to trust. I know it sounds scary, but the risks are so worth the rewards! On the days you feel as though you don’t have a friend in the world — remember what Jesus said:
I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you John 15:15
Jesus calls you his friend! You are worthy and loved!!